Or Colin Powell before Condi? Too much the gentleman?
There is something to your suspicion, brebis noire. The macho boys know vaguely that they need good diplomacy, but they think of diplomacy as something soft. Especially since the neocons took over, the SoS has had to fight for respect because the frat boys are all more enchanted with doing intel and special ops and sexy crooked stuff like that.
I don't remember the SoS being disrespected and played around so much in the past. Maybe it was just a BushCo thing. Cheney and Rumsfeld played Powell for a fool, and then Cheney just ignored Condi. But that may be unique to this set of crooks. No one played Albright for a fool, eg, and I don't think that Obama would or could do that to Clinton.