Well, I'm glad we had that little chat.
Now, back to "suffering, pain, and abuse." Cale, I really think that few people here want to discuss their lives or their spirits or their politics in the overgeneral abstractions you're using. Just about all of us have certainly known some suffering and pain, and some of us have known some serious abuse. All of us have also had absolutely glorious times in our lives, and we often talk and write out of those.
In terms of abuse, I'm one of the lucky ones. In my life, I've faced abuse only in a public sense, in the open discrimination against me for the first 15-20 years of my working life, when it was legal for employers to pay me less just because I am a woman. Me, I think that was abuse, and it certainly has had life-long financial implications (think CPP), but there you go.
Others here have survived abuse of the much more serious private kind, and if I were you, I would walk lightly on that territory. Even so, those people wouldn't describe themselves as being all about pain and suffering, I don't think. People here are more about creation and activism, about making a better world.
It certainly is true, though, that you can't make a better world unless you are first honest about some of the things that are wrong with the way things are.