« on: June 14, 2006, 04:53:52 PM »
A brief interlude about me, now that you made it an issue: Uhm, people immigrate for a lot of reasons. None of my grandparents came here, as they had comfortable, wealthy, and well-established lives in the old country. The closest thing I had to grandparents on this continent came here, as far as I could tell, because the academic environment in the old country felt boring and stifling. That and fleeing Idi Amin's purges of immigrants in Uganda, but they didn't have to come *here*.
My parents came here, as far as I can tell, because the cool high-tech gizmos were being made here, and my dad could ply his engineering trade in a more interesting environment. Some of the doctor siblings showed up because they were tired of plying their trade in that environment.
So no, they didn't come here so that *I* could have a comfortable life, although it was one. However, they're pretty relieved that I, for the time being, have a comfortable life, and didn't really face the mild racism they occasionally faced.
So what does this have to do with women? Well, it sounds awfully like you're denying that people can sometimes just want to rest on their laurels and not think about the big bad world outside. There's a bizarre class of people who has all that plastic surgery stuff. But most of my female friends have degrees in computer watchamacallit and graduate degrees and fun jobs and don't bother with plastic surgery and don't appear to think their lives are empty or whatever.
Maybe it's not my place to speak for them, but it sounds very much like you want to impute motivations to them. Maybe, being a woman, you can better impute those motivations to them. But I grew up with them and played computer games with them and experienced personally some of the human things that they experienced.
And realize that the coming storm that will come for them, if there is one, will come for me too.